Dee & Bee

The Distance Between Us

Over the past few months, I noticed that something in my home, my husband and I were together, but far apart.

Financial pressure had built up quietly. A few projects had failed. My husband's response was to turn inward, to carry the weight alone and figure things out before bringing me back in. I understood the instinct. But what it meant was that our conversations became functional. We talked about logistics, schedules, and the surface of things. The real stuff, the fears, the doubts, the uncertainty, stayed locked away.

It felt like he was waiting to hit a jackpot before we could return to each other. Like connection was a reward for success, not something we were supposed to maintain through the struggle.

So even though we were in the same house, we weren't really together.

The Turning Point

One night, we talked. Not about money or projects or plans, we actually talked.

I told him we weren't just married for the wins. The fails are part of it too. His place as my husband doesn't depend on what he figures out or what he achieves. It stands regardless.

Something opened up after that. We both admitted how much we'd been holding back. We agreed that vulnerability wasn't something to save for good times; it's actually what holds you together when things are hard. That honesty, that willingness to be seen even when things aren't going well, is its own kind of strength. Spiritually, it's what unifies us.

Where We Are Now

It's been beautiful.

We're not where we're going yet. But we're nowhere near where we were. The connection is real again, not mechanical, not surface-level.

If I had to give one piece of advice, it would be: have a real-time talk with your spouse. Don't let assumptions sit. Communication without assumptions is what creates actual intimacy. That's what we learned, and it changed everything for us.